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第10章 每个成功者都知道的秘密（第3页）
"thefriendasked。
"Yes，Iloveit。
"
"Isitfun？
"
"No！
"
Thatsix-year-oldhadlearnedwhatmanyadultsneverexerience：thejoyofdiscilineandself-develoment。Unfortunately，theveryworddiscilineutsusoffbecauseitsoundsrestrictiveandunitive—likeatruantofficerstalkingustomakesurewetoetheline。Truediscilineisntonyourbackneedlingyouwithimeratives；itisatyourside，nudgingyouwithincentives。Whenyouunderstandthatdiscilineisself-caring，notself-castigating，youwontcringeatitsmention，butwillcultivateit。
CharleyBoswell，aformerUniversityofAlabamafootballstarwithhoesofarofessionalbaseballcareer，losthiseyesightinWorldWarII，butthatdidntstohim
"tobecometheNationalBlindGolfChamion17times
"。Hewasquotedassaying，
"InevercountwhatIvelost。IonlycountwhatIhaveleft。
"Thatisself-develoment—thatisdisciline。
Habit-changingstrategies
Manyaersonsdownfallcomesintryingtochangeabadhabitbyfocusingonanundesirablebehaviortorelaceit。
Countlesseoletellmetheywouldliketoeatbetterbutdontwantto
"giveu
"tastyfood。Ratherthanthinkingaboutwhattheycanthave，theyshouldthinkaboutwhattheycaneat。Fruitjuicewithsarklingmineralwaterisadelicioussubstituteforhigh-caloriesoftdrinks；snacksandcookiesrearedwithwholegrainsandfriedfruitsgivecandybarsgoodcometition。
Itisnteasytochangeoldhabits。Anoverweightwomancametomeduringaseminarandsaid，
"Imsoundiscilined。Icantsticktoadietandmyhouseisalwaysamess。Ifeellikeaslob。
"Itoldhershewasnttotallyundiscilined。
"Youmadeittothisconference。Youarriveromtlyateachsession，andyouareneatlydressed。
"Shealmostsmiled，andthenIadded，
"Theresrobablyareasonwhyyouhaventbeenabletoloseweightorgetyourhomeinorder。
"
Later，Ifoundouttherewasabigreason。Shewaswidowedayearbefore。Herhusbandhadbeenanalcoholicwhoverballyabusedherall24yearsoftheirmarriage。Itneveroccurredtoherthataoorself-imagewaskeeingherfromeffectingositivechanges。Withthisrealization，shetookthenextsteinbringingmorediscilinetoherlife—bygoingforcounseling。Meanwhile，someofherfriendsofferedtocometoherhouseandhelhercleanu，uttingherevenmoresolidlyonahabit-changingcourse。
Mindovermatter
IremembermyschooldaysandMomsregularreveille：
"Timetogetu！
"Iagonizedinbeduntilthelastminuteandranmymothersatienceshort。ThenIwentawaytocollegeandhadtogetmyselfu。Finally，tiredofwagingwarwithwaking，Idecidedthatwhenthealarmrang，Iwouldrise—justbecauseIwantedto，regardlessofhowIfelt。Ithasworkedeversince。
InFeelingGood，TheNewMoodTherayDavidD。Burns，M。D。，writes：
"Motivationdoesnotcomefirst，actiondoes！Youhavetorimetheum。Ifyouwaituntilyoureinthemood，youmaywaitforever。
"Whenyoudontfeellikedoingsomething，youtendtoutitoff，butitsoftenafterwegetinvolvedinataskthatwebecomehighlymotivated。
Discilineishabit-forming。Alittleleadstomore，becausethebenefitsroveincreasinglydesirable。Whenyoufinallyovercomeinertia，youwillfeelbetterallaround。Weareatourbest—hysicallyandmentally—whenwearediscilined。
