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第10章 每个成功者都知道的秘密(第2页)

InOctober1982,a25-year-oldwomanfinishedtheNewYorkCityMarathon。Nobigdeal—untilyoulearnthatLindaDownhascerebralalsyandwasthefirstwomanevertocomletethe26。2-mileraceoncrutches。Downfellhalfadozentimes,butketgoinguntilshecrossedthefinishline,11hoursaftershestarted。Herhandicalimitedherseedbutnotherdetermination。

HenryWadsworthLongfellowoncewrote:

"Greatistheartofbeginning,butgreatertheartisofending。

"Howniceitwouldbeifweallhadageniewhocouldhelusfinishwhatwebegin。Unfortunately,wedont。Butwhatwedohaveisadynamiccalleddisciline—whichextractsahighrice。FollowingoneofPaderewskiserformances,afansaidtohim,

"Idgivemylifetolaylikethat。

"Thebrilliantianistrelied,

"Idid。

"

Accomlishmentisoftendecetivebecausewedontseetheainanderseverancethatroducedit。Sowemaycredittheachieverwithbrains,brawnorluckybreaks,andletourselvesoffthehookbecausewefallshortinallthree。Notthatwecouldallbeconcertianistsjustbyexercisingenoughdisciline。Rather,eachofushasthemakingsofsuccessinsomeendeavor,butwewillachievethisonlyifwealyourwillsandworkatit。

Howcanweacquirestick-at-itiveness?Thereisnosimle,fastformula。ButIhavedeveloedawayofthinkingthathasrescuedmyownvacillatingwillmorethanonce。Herearethebasicelements:

"Dont

"ower

Thisisasimortantaswillower。TheancientChinesehilosoherMenciussaid,

"Menmustbedecidedonwhattheywillnotdo,andthentheyareabletoactwithvigorinwhattheyoughttodo。

"

Discilinemeanschoices

Everytimeyousayyestoagoalorobjective,yousaynotmanymore。Everyrizehasitsrice。Therizeistheyes;thericeistheno。IgorGorin,thenotedUkrainian-Americanbaritone,toldofhisearlydaysstudyingvoice。Helovedtosmokeaie,butonedayhisrofessorsaid,

"Igor,youwillhavetomakeuyourmindwhetheryouaregoingtobeagreatsinger,oragreatie-smoker,youcannotbeboth。

"Sotheiewent。

Delayedgratification

M。ScottPeck,M。D。,authorofthebest-sellerTheRoadLessTraveled,describesthistoolofdiscilineas

"arocessofschedulingtheainandleasureoflifeinsuchawayastoenhancetheleasurebymeetingandexeriencingtheainfirstandgettingitoverwith。

"

Thismightinvolveroutinedailydecisions—somethingassimleasskiingafavoritelate-nightTVshowandgettingtobedearly,tobewideawakeforameetingthenextmorning。Oritmightinvolvelonger-termresolves。Ayoungwidowwiththreechildrendecidedtoinvestherinsurancesettlementinacollegeeducationforherself。Sheconsideredtherealitiesofatightbudgetandlittlefreetime,buttheseseemedsmallsacrificesinreturnforthedoorsthatadegreewouldoen。Todaysheisahighlyaidfinancialconsultant。

Thesecretofsuchcommitmentisgettingastthedrudgeryandseeingthedelight。

"Thefactisthatmanyworthwhileendeavorsarentfun,

"sayssyndicatedradioandTVcommentatorMortCrim,

"True,allworkandnolaymakesJohnnyadullboy。Buttryingtoturneverythingwedointolaymakesforterriblefrustrations,becauselife—eventhemostrewardingone—includescircumstancesthatarentfunatall。Ilikemyjobasajournalist。Itsersonallysatisfying,butitisntalwaysfun。

"

Achievingabalance

Neverconfusediscilinewithrigidity。Perfectionisnottheaim;rather,strivefortheeaceofmindthatcomesfrombeinginchargeofyourself。

Mostofusneedinterludesinourworktotakeawalkoreatsnack—whateverrevivesandrefreshes。Yourbreathersdontneedtobelengthytoshakeoutthecobwebsandgivesomerelief。Suchrewardsactasincentivesforfinishingatask,aswellashelingyoutomaintainmomentum。

Truediscilineachievesabalanceofroducing,notdriving。Evendiscilineneedstobediscilined。

Self-develoment

Discilinedeolearehaiereolebecausetheyarefulfillinginnerotential。Awomanatoneofmyseminarstoldmeabouthersix-year-olddaughterwhoswamwithateamandracticedeverymorningforanhour,swimming2000to3000meters,sherelatedaconversationherdaughterhadwithafamilyfriend。

"Doyoulikeswimming?

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